Do any of your children seem to have a more special bond with your spouse or perhaps a grandparent that leaves you wondering what you’re doing wrong? It could be a neighbour or teacher or someone else in your community that your child seems to be particularly fond of. This may be due to the fact that this person, unintentionally, is speaking your child’s love language.
The majority of relationship breakdowns are the result of ineffective communication. So many relationships could have be saved if the couples prioritised their communication skills. Developing good communication makes people feel understood and respected in their relationship. It enables the couple to find positive solutions to any challenges, without being emotionally triggered.
Aristotle said: “Give me the boy until he’s 7 and I’ll show you then man!”
The reason it’s so important to be a good role model for your children is because they learneverythingfrom you! That might be an exaggeration but only just. They are little sponges, especially from the womb to age 7 and if you are their primary care giver, most of what they take in will be from you. During this period, they are creating neural pathways in the brain of how the world works and how they’re supposed to work within the world.
One of the many amazing things about children is that they actually know how to relieve their stress in an effective way. It may not be acceptable to us adults, but it’s effective for them. The most important thing we can do to support our children in dealing with stress is to just trust them in knowing how to manage it for themselves. Stress is a process that the body goes through in order to deal with certain situations. If this process is disrupted either by an adult looking down on the response disapprovingly, or by additional stress put on the child, then the process can’t complete its cycle and the stress gets trapped within the body. This can lead to illness, physical pain and increased sensitivity to future emotional triggers.
There are 6 needs that every human has. The role of the unconscious is to satisfy these needs no matter what, even if we’re not aware of how we’re doing it or if we’re doing it in a negative way. By deepening your understanding of these needs you will be more able to recognise when your child is trying to satisfy them, and if they’re doing that in an un resourceful way, you will more likely be equipped to find other ways to satisfy them.
I’m not a step parent and I don’t have step parents. And although I’ve worked with many, it doesn’t take a professional to imagine that probably the hardest part of step-parenting is dealing with the ‘other parent’, who of course also happens to be your partner’s ex. Talk about tricky! I really do have great admiration for people who navigate it successfully and empathy for those who struggle with it.
It’s been said that for a woman to have sex she needs a reason, but a man just needs a place! This is because it’s the man’s job to just spread his seed and she’s supposed to be the picky one to make sure it’s only the quality seed that grows. A woman is also at a higher risk of feeling vulnerable because she’s generally less strong than a man, so she must feel safe and protected before being intimate.
Time must be one of the trickiest things to manage as a parent (along with mega tantrums). There are so many things you want to do, and so many things your kids want you to do, or at the very least, need you to do.
Time management isn’t about managing time as such. It’s about managing ourselves in relation to time